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Overcoming Lust, copyrighted by Jim Vander Spek.
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May God grant you victory over lust!
Chapter 1- Our Story
1. If you have not done so, read the foreword written by PatKenney. Is there any part of his story or what he writes that surprises you?
2. Describe an occasion where you have shared with someone else about the sin of lust in your life or theirs.
3. Describe why “two are better than one” in battling lust.
4. How have you found the concept of “give and it will be given you” to apply in ministering to others?
5. Can you identify with any of those whose stories were shared in this chapter? If so, explain. How do they give you hope where previously you may have been discouraged?
Chapter 2- Understanding Lust
1. Consider the definition, “You are sexually pure when no
sexual gratification comes from anyone but your wife.” Is
there a better way to describe sexual purity? Why is a definition
needed?
2. Would you describe the definitions of lust provided in this
chapter as realistic? Accurate? Helpful? What was new in
this for you?
3. Would you consider lust as being automatic or something
that you allow yourself to experience? Describe why this is
so.
4. Consider the way the “illicit sexual buzz” is described in this
chapter. Do you have another way to describe it?
5. What are some ways to experience sexual desire without
sinning?
6. How can we think sexual thoughts without sinning? Give
examples.
7. Looking back over your life, would you say you believed
the best you could hope for was to manage lust and sexual
temptation, or did you believe you could overcome it? How
has this chapter challenged your old thinking?
Chapter 3- The danger of Lust
1. Lust is described as insatiable. Have you found that to be
true in your experience? Can you provide an example of this
in your life?
2. Lust is described as deceptive. Have you found that to be
true in your experience? Can you provide an example of this
in your life?
3. Lust is described as destructive. Have you found this to be
true in your experience? Can you provide an example of this
in your life?
4. The quote taken from the Sexaholics Anonymous website
includes the following, “Lust is cunning, baffling, powerful,
and patient.” Which of these qualities have you found to be
true in your experience with lust?
5. How might Paul’s characterization of his past attitudes
and behavior in Titus 3:3—“foolish, disobedient, deceived,
serving various lusts and pleasures”—describe your own
attitudes and behavior, either now or in the past?
6. What have you learned that is new about lust by reading this
far and as you have discussed it? How do you believe this
will affect how you live?
Chapter 4- Entering the War Against Lust
1. How does avoiding bad behavior compare with overcoming
lust?
2. How have you acted on what you know to be true regarding
lust?
3. Can you describe a crisis in your life brought about by lust?
4. Have you ever heard of recoiling from lust by means of
“bouncing your eyes” or similar advice? Do you think it is
practical or effective to do so?
5. To what extent would you be willing to go to remove recurring
temptations to lust from your life?
6. Have you ever recoiled from lust in your thought life? Do
you think it is practical or effective to do this on a consistent
basis?
7. Have you found yourself unable to overcome lust despite
engaging in intense spiritual activity? Why do you think this
was so? How did you handle it?
8. How do you intend to go about battling lust going forward?
Chapter 5- Confronting False Rationales
1. Describe the Triangle of Lust. What stood out to you the
most when you read about this?
2. Describe freedom from lust as described in this chapter.
What does such freedom look like in daily life?
3. Who are the positive role models in your life, in regard to
overcoming lust?
4. Describe the freedom from lust or other sin as compared
to the examples of Jack and Shaq. Have you ever felt such
freedom from lust?
5. What rationales—used by some to excuse lust—stand out
for you from this chapter? Which of these have you used in
your life?
6. How will you go about abandoning the rationales that supported
your sin in the past?
Chapter 6- Weapons for Overcoming Lust (Part 1)
1. Do you agree that there is no “maintaining the status quo”
in the true Christian walk? If so, do you feel that you are
moving forward into righteousness or backward into sin?
2. What should be your goal as to sexual purity?
3. How do you feel after you allow the sin of lust into your life?
Do you sorrow or mourn? Rationalize the guilt away? Feel
nothing? Can you recall an example of this?
4. Describe the last time you confessed the sin of lust and
repented from it.
5. As you look back on your life, how have you made provision
for lust?
6. What is your plan for no longer making a provision for lust
in your life, both now and in the future?
7. Give an example of where you have fled or might flee from
an “ambush” temptation.
8. Is there any relationship in your life that has been damaged
by lust? How would you now be able to bring about reconciliation
in this relationship?
9. Which of the weapons described in this chapter do you
believe could be the most helpful for you in overcoming
lust? Why?
Chapter 7- Weapons for Overcoming Lust (Part 2)
1. If married, how could you more effectively glorify God in
your sexual relationship with your spouse?
2. Are you being transparent with anyone about your failures
and successes in regards to lust?
3. Describe ways that you could improve your thought life.
4. Have you had a struggle with remaining consistent in battling
lust? What would help you keep up your guard?
5. How could you improve the way you pray?
6. If you have time, discuss each of the fourteen weapons
described in this chapter and the previous one. Are you using
any of these weapons now? Which ones? How? How could
you make better use of them?
7. Which of the weapons described in this chapter do you
believe could be the most helpful for you in overcoming
lust?
8. As you read this, does it appear to you that the conduct being
recommended appears to be excessive, or “over the top”
in terms of what it takes to deal with lust? If yes—explain
which conduct seems that way and why.
Chapter 8- Meditating on Scripture
1. How many Bible verses or passages have you memorized in
the past?
2. Which ones remain in your memory or would quickly be
available if you reviewed them?
3. Describe the differences between hiding, keeping and meditating
on God’s word.
4. Compare the benefits of reading, studying and meditating on
Scripture.
5. What do you think about most when your mind wanders?
When you wake during the night?
6. How would you distinguish between your heart, your soul
and your mind?
7. What do you think about the idea of making Scripture your
default meditation?
8. What passage from Scripture would you like to memorize?
Which one would you recommend to those who struggle
with lust?
9. How do you think that meditating on Scripture would help
you to overcome lust?
Chapter 9- Victory Over Lust
1. Describe the part that you play in overcoming lust versus
what God does.
2. Can you give examples of how the world’s approach to
dealing with lust differs from the way that Christians are
meant to deal with it?
3. What do you think about the “sexual sobriety” standard that
some use in combating lust?
4. Do you believe that you or someone you know is a sex
addict? How does God’s Word speak to this?
5. How would you rate your self-control as to giving in to lust?
6. What would victory over lust look like in your life?
7. How would your life be different if you were walking in victory
over lust?
Chapter 10- Is Victory Over Lust Unusual?
1. The opening two paragraphs of this chapter describe the
reaction of some Christians to the material presented so far.
Which reaction best matches yours?
2. How would you describe the teaching about lust you received
in the past? Was it clear or unclear?
3. Describe situations where you have seen sexual purity
modeled.
4. Several examples of those who got on track with overcoming
lust early on in their Christian walk are presented. What did
you learn from these? Can you identify with them?
5. Has your exposure to poor examples among Christians hindered
your ability to overcome lust in the past? Describe
specific examples of this.
6. How realistic is it to expect victory over lust in your life?
7. Peter says that God “has given us all things that pertain to
life and godliness.” Is there anything stopping you from
living a godly life?
8. We are at the halfway point in this book. So far, are you in
agreement with the teaching presented? Explain. How are
you making progress in overcoming lust in your life?
Part 2- Learning from Scripture
Chapter 11- Adultery in the Heart
1. What did Jesus mean for us to do in Matthew 5 where He
describes lust in the heart?
2. What was Jesus trying to teach us when He describes
plucking out our eyes and cutting off our hands?
3. Do you agree with the way Matthew 5:27-30 was explained
in this chapter? If you agree, how will it affect the way you
live? If you disagree, explain how you interpret these verses.
4. Share an experience where a thorny harvest grew up in your
life because you gave in to lust.
5. Jesus expected us to obey His commandments. What stops
you from obeying Him? Who do you know that does this?
6. Recall Job’s covenant with his eyes and his description of his
heart not following his eyes. What would it look like in your
life to keep such a covenant?
Chapter 12-Setting Captives Free
1. Jesus said that He came to set us free from sin. What do you
think that kind of freedom looks like?
2. Jesus expects us to obey His commandments. What prevents
us from doing so?
3. Do you think it is possible to obey His commandments?
Describe the life of someone who obeys the commandments?
What stops you from living by them?
4. Do you see the kind of righteousness of the Pharisees being
lived out in the lives of Christians you know? Describe
this—(no names).
5. Why do we tend to blame our environment, such as the way
we see women dress or behave, for our lust?
6. How does the word picture of the vine and the branches in
John 15 help you develop a strategy for overcoming lust?
7. Obeying the commandments of Jesus results in a firm foundation
to keep you safe when the storms of life come. Can
you describe an example of this in your life?
8. Can you give an example of the results that come from
having a foundation of sand?
9. How would your life be different if you were to “pick up
your cross” and follow Christ?
Chapter 13- Paul’s Indwelling Sin
1. Read Romans 7:13-24 and replace the word “sin” with the
word “lust” and assume that it is written by Paul as a believer.
How does that help you?
2. Have you ever felt the way Paul described himself in
Romans 7—doing what you do not want to do? Sometimes?
Frequently? Never?
3. What does it mean to “continue in sin?” Would you agree
that it means being caught up in habitual, life-dominating
sin?
4. Do you agree that Paul’s indwelling sin, referred to in
Romans 7, could well have been lust? How does that help
you?
5. Read the four verses where Paul mentions lust and uncleanness,
and again replace the word “sin” with the word “lust.”
What specific instruction does Paul provide in these verses?
Chapter 14- Paul’s Argument Against Indwelling Sin
1. How does Paul’s first word picture (Romans 6:1-14) describe
your condition and how you should conduct your life in
regards to lust?
2. How does Paul’s second word picture (Romans 6:15-23)
describe your condition and how you should conduct your
life as it relates to lust?
3. How does Paul’s third word picture (Romans 7:1-6) describe
your condition and how you should conduct your life as it
relates to lust?
4. Do you believe that it is normal or necessary for a Christian
to feel like R7 Man? Why is it so common?
5. Give an example of a time when continuing in sin brought
death into your life.
6. Give an example of a time when continuing in sin made you
a slave to sin.
7. Give an example of time when continuing in sin removed
joy from your life.
8. In the verses listed in the section that tells us what we should
be doing, replace the word “sin” with “lust” and read them
out loud. Why do you not always do what you should do?
9. What part of your life needs to change so that you will do
what you should do?
Chapter 15- A Slave to Righteousness
1. Which would most accurately describe you—a slave to righteousness,
or a slave to sin? Why?
2. How is Paul’s teaching about the use of our members built
upon what Jesus taught on this subject?
3. What part do our “members” play in gaining victory over
sin?
4. Can you give examples of what it looks like when one’s
members are instruments of righteousness versus slaves of
unrighteousness?
5. What are the differences between R7 Man and R8 Man?
Which one do you identify with more?
6. Do you feel conviction because of the sin of lust in your life?
Does it go away? What parts of Romans 6-8 speak to you
most powerfully about this subject?
Chapter 16- The Renewed Mind
1. How does it help you, knowing that Jesus was tempted in all
ways just like you?
2. Can you describe what it is like to crucify your flesh as it
relates to lust?
3. Can you share what it is like to put off the Old Man and put
on the New Man as it relates to lust?
4. We are described as being the “temple of God.” What do
you think that means and how does it affect how you intend
to live?
5. Paul encourages us in various ways and in various passages
to take heed and be careful lest we fall short. What are your
concerns about falling into sin?
6. Paul describes being transformed by the renewing of your
mind. Have you experienced this in your life? What would
help you progress in this?
Chapter 17- Learning From the Other Apostles
1. Describe how you came to be a Christian and any training
that you received following this in how to live as a Christian
as it relates to lust.
2. Does the image of cleaning out old dead branches to make
room for new life describe what has happened in your life?
Give an example of this in your life.
3. Give an example of when you have blamed God or others
for your sin.
4. Describe the way the slippery slope of sin works according
to James and give an example from your life.
5. Do you believe you will be able to lay aside all filthiness
as James describes? What else does James tell us to do in
regards to our sin?
6. James talks about turning someone who “wanders from the
truth.” Share any experience you have had with purposeful
intervention as it relates to lust.
Chapter 18- Peter
1. Can you describe how ignorance has played a part in causing
you to conform to your former lusts as Peter describes?
2. How does the analogy of war help us to understand lust and
how to overcome it?
3. Peter advises us to exert great effort in order to acquire eight
positive qualities including self-control. Where are you in
this process and how will you proceed going forward?
4. Why should you see yourself as self-willed and presumptuous
when you allow lust in your life?
5. Have you been influenced by teachers or writers who are like
Peter described in 2 Peter 2:12-19? Describe what they were
teaching.
6. How will acquiring the qualities Peter describes stop you
from being barren and unfruitful?
7. If you are struggling with lust, how do you believe God will
deliver you?
Chapter 19- John
1. What does John mean by, “Do not love the world”?
2. Describe a time when you faked doing well in your spiritual
walk even though at the time, you were deeply struggling
with lust.
3. How does John teach us to deal with our sin?
4. Describe a time when you found yourself confessing your
sins without effectively repenting from them.
5. Where would you rate your maturity as a Christian based on
the way John described those he wrote to?
6. Do you believe that you could describe yourself as having
ceased from sin or no longer continuing in sin as Peter and
John describe? How could this become a reality in your life?
Chapter 20- More than Conquerors
1. What is a break-even, unprofitable servant? Are you like
that? Are you better or worse than that?
2. How does the parable of the talents apply to your struggle
with lust?
3. When all is said and done, what do you envision your role in
the future to be like?
4. Describe what it is like to be “more than a conqueror.”
5. Why is “knowing God” so valuable?
6. What is the most important thing you have learned in reading
this book?
7. How will what you have learned affect the way you live?
